Trusting God In The Midst Of Job Loss (Part 1)

I’d like to start out this post with acknowledging my over privileged life! I recognize that because I have change in my pocket, our family financially ranks in the top 8% of the world. Wow.

Jesus, come soon.

Ben and I have been on a financial ride for the six years we’ve been married. At our worst, we scoured craigslist couches to collect change for cigarettes!  It was fun back then because we were young, without kids, and definitely reckless. Our marriage began with mounds of credit card debt, student loans, and an old beat up Pontiac.156637_562328823357_4342794_n

We lived off butterfly love.

My husband began his career with a psychology degree selling cemetery plots. (It was a dying business and yes, I’ve heard that a million times)

Yet in six years, we went from barely making rent to demolishing credit card debt. Ben advanced in his career at a rapid pace and we began purchasing fancy cars, stainless steal appliances, and vacations. We were tackling student debt and were on our way to purchasing a bigger home. We gave out of abundance because we had more than we needed.

(Side note, it’s easy to give when you have ‘enough’! Mark 12:44)

Then on a regular Friday afternoon, my husband came home early.

“Honey, I got laid off”

And just like that, my ugliness exposed.

There are a lot of things that can happen in the mind of a stay at home mom when those words come out of a bread winning husband. So for 8 weeks (and counting), I have come face to face with anxiety and confusion. I have battled with fear, anger, and just plain ol’ sadness. I’ve been introduced to greediness that I didn’t even know existed! Hi greediness, my name is Rosie. NOT nice to meet you.

Savings have dwindled and bills have piled.

Trusting God becomes a lot more real…. when your only choice is to trust in him.

Psalm 143:8

Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love,
for I have put my trust in you.
Show me the way I should go,
for to you I entrust my life.

And so I have learned that it’s ok to admit you’re failing in front of God. Grace loves the admission of failure because it turns our minds to his unfailing love rather than our hard earning work.

And.

It’s a day by day and moment by moment decision to put away the ugliness of fear and speak the truth of Gods grace into the hearts and minds of my family.

And so today, I choose to trust God. I choose to trust him despite what I see. (2 Cor 5:7)

I choose to see that I have food and shelter today and that God has promised to take care of tomorrow. (Matthew 6:34)

I choose to tell un-thankfulness to leave and I choose to allow praise fill up my heart in its place. (James 1:2-4)

I choose to speak grace into my husbands life and I choose to stay by his side.

And when I fail, I will rejoice because it’s not about how good I am at trusting him, it’s about how good he is in his promise to me. He is teaching me. I don’t have it all right.

I choose to admit that I am weak, but he is strong.

It’s OK to be honest with yourself and say….” wow, I have a lot of ugliness in my heart right now”. Take off the mask! The cross of Christ allows us to be completely open before God. He won’t scorch us and he promises to help us in our time of need. He loves us despite our sin!

Psalm 34:6

This poor man cried, and the Lord heard him; he saved him from all his troubles.

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With the mounds of advice the world gives to those in financial trouble (I’ve heard a lot), it is easy to get lost in its wisdom and miss the still small voice of God. Do you want to join me in REST and quietness? This is God’s chance to shine. Like the heart of Jehosephat, let’s cry.

2 Chronicles 20:12b

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Here are some additional links if this hits home more true than you would like:

Promises To Those Struggling with Unemployment

Weathering The Storm Of Job Loss

Unemployed Faith

 

 

 

6 thoughts on “Trusting God In The Midst Of Job Loss (Part 1)

  1. I love how you wrote out your mantra complete with Bible verse references! And I loved how you realized they were choices you were making. You made some great choices. I also love that you chose a verse from Psalm 91. That is one of my favorite chapters.

    We have been there, too, more than once. I remember the times he called me with news just like that. The last time it happened was to be permanent. We knew he was no longer able to work. His disease had just taken too much from him. So much of it really does come down to trusting Him with the ashes and keeping our eyes on Him instead of the problem. He hears you, and He will meet you there. When I look back on these memories now, it’s like I can hear Him whispering in my ear, “Trust me. Just trust me.” I can tell you this. He has never failed us. We have found that this is usually how He has brought us out of bad situations and into better ones. I do remember one particular time being in a grocery store, where we had easily always filled up a cart, but this time we barely covered the bottom. But we felt like we always had plenty and had eaten so well during that time. It was a fish and loaves kind of experience. Another thing I remember about that one particular time was adding the public library onto our list of fun things to do on Friday. Not only could we read whatever we wanted for free, but we found our much loved British comedy, As Time Goes By on DVDs there. I had wanted to buy those just before this happened.

    Another thing I realized during some of these times was that we were being watched, by our grown children and by others, but especially our children. We never stop parenting by our example, no matter how old they are. That is a lifetime responsibility. When we later watched our children go through similar times, they did so with trust and faith in God. Maybe sometimes we go through things not only for God to move us into a better place, but sometimes it is meant to be an example for someone us to follow behind us.

    We made some great memories during some of these lean times. I have found that to be the case in many different situations. It’s the good that floats to the top. Our memories are a funny thing. It will be the good that you will remember. I blogged on that very thing a while back: It Is the Good in Life that Floats to the Top. I learned that good and bad are always happening simultaneously. It is the good that we usually remember. Even going through difficult times, there is still good. There are still beautiful memories to make. Some you will even look back on as some of your best memories.

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  2. Oh my goodness, you described my life 4 years ago almost exactly! My husband got laid off from a very lucrative job when our daughter was barely a month old and our son was 3. We rode a rollercoaster for nearly two years following this event, with him coming so close to landing another job several times but it was always given to someone else. We ended up draining all of our savings (which I’m very grateful we had) and having to move out of the house we were renting and in with my in-laws.

    It was honestly one of the worst and best times of my life simultaneously. Through it, I started to lean on Jesus like never before and my faith grew by leaps and bounds. There was deep rooted sin in my life that was exposed during this time, which I finally dealt with. I really came to know my Savior in a more deeply personal way, also. I finally grasped the words of this song, “What if Your blessings come through raindrops, what if Your healing comes through tears, what if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You’re near?” That trial was truly His mercy in disguise. I know it’s hard and I know it stinks right now, but in clinging to God through it you will discover His faithfulness and character in such an intimate way. We too, made a lot of good memories despite the pain and confusion that I will always treasure!

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  3. My husband was out of work for a year after 9/11 (and after we returned from a year’s sabbatical in Africa working for a charity). It’s a long story, and got two chapters in my memoir, but the crux of it is this: 🙂 My husband walked around Lower Manhattan (Wall Street area) seven times, like Joshua before the walls of Jericho. He had hit such a low point, thinking he was never going to have a job again. Until one day, he looked out our apartment window at the business district, and finally prayed, “Come on, God! You’re God! You can give me a job in one of these buildings. This city is yours.” Sure enough, when he was signing his work contract at his new office, he was able to spot the window to our apartment. 🙂 There’s more of course. There was the valley before the rush, and there were marital fights. But God never let us down. We were never impoverished. xoxo

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  4. I know it doesn’t seem like it right now but God always replaces with better and happier. I am a single mom and while raising two kids, I was laid off 7 times in less than 5 years and each time just when I got to Rock bottom,God always came through. Looking back I began to realize those layoffs were God’s way of doing several things 1. each time my faith grew and by layoff number 6 I didn’t panic so much. I just trusted in him. 2. The layoffs always took place at a time I needed it. God even spoke to my heart once and told me he was giving me a season of rest and lost time with my family. Now I absolutely cherish that terrible time. 3. The layoffs always came at a time that I needed to be home ,whether it was picking up pieces of a shattered life or an illness of a loved one I needed to help. 4.) every time I lost my job, I would start new adventures volunteering with non profits or spending more time at my kids school etc, attended church groups and events that a work schedule wouldn’t make room for…etc. I rwaluzed much later down the road that God used those times to open doors for me to walk through. The doors that helped me grow as a person, grow in faith and would layer become the person he was grooming me to become. Hang in there and trust in God. I’m 100% confident where ever it leads good or bad that he has a plan with it that you will one day look back on and be amazed at how he used it for your good.

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  5. Thank you for sharing these promises from God’s Word. I am out of work and trying my very best to trust God. I know know know that He is faithful and able to provide. It’s holding on in the waiting that can be so hard. But it is also where faith is built. I appreciate your post so much!

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    • Hey Kelly! Let’s stay in touch- I will pray for you while you pray for me. It is hard. It is hard everyday. But God tells us to wait on him, that he holds us in the palms of his hands. He already sees what is ahead, and he is already there, rejoicing over you.
      I love your blog.

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